Do you feel burdened at work, or like you’re doing more than your share? You may be over-functioning. Taking more responsibility than is reasonable or realistic is sign of over-functioning. If you’re a leader or a hard worker and your …
Category Archives: Relationship skills
Don’t Lose IQ Points Through Reactivity
Think back to the last time you felt REALLY threatened. Did you feel a haze of confusion set in? A feeling of being frozen? Your mind in temporary lock-down? Obsessing over something you said or did? Unreasonable black/white conclusions? Trying …
Think Feel And Make Wiser Decisions
When you’re thinking clearly and feeling fully, you’ll often make your best decisions. A clear head and full heart leads to well-considered choices that you can stand behind with confidence. When your head informs your heart, and your heart …
Hold Your Value and Expand Your Confidence
When you recognize and take ownership of your value, you strengthen the foundation for your confidence. Your value can be viewed in two ways; as relative and as intrinsic.
Relative Value
Your relative value is conditional. It’s established through social …
Identify and Tend Your Vital Relationships
When a relationship has a powerful effect on something really important to you, it’s a vital relationship, and one that is central to your success and well-being. These relationships need extra attention and care.
Is the Relationship Pivotal?
When you …
Say No to Guilt and Obligation and Yes to Life
Someone asks you to do something that tweaks your sense of obligation. It could be a favor. It could be a contribution to a good cause. Maybe you feel manipulated. That sneaky feeling of obligation should put you on red …
Grateful Generosity
It’s been cold here in Seattle lately; colder than usual. But my home is heated, my office is heated and so is my car. I’m very grateful for this presence of warmth. When I stop to really feel gratitude for …
Create Clear Agreements
Create agreements with integrity and then verify them. Re-negotiate as needed.
Clear agreements are at the heart of successful human relationships. They bind us together for better and worse. How you handle your agreements will build or erode trust and …
Kind Communication
Even in a difficult conversation, kindness can build trust and support high performance.
Kindness is often sacrificed for truth and necessity. It doesn’t have to be. You can deliver a message with kindness even if it will be difficult for …
Amplify Your Visibility
Make your presence known and learn to handle the heat that comes with being the focus of attention.
Visibility is something most people really want and too often, really dread. It calls up one of the most basic desires: …